Be Your Dog’s Mother, Even If You’re A Guy.
Why would you use ‘techniques’ that only work on 70% of dogs when you can use a ‘language’ that works on all of them?
I can hear and feel the stress and anxiety in the voices of my clients as they describe the experiences they have had with their dog’s reactive and ‘aggressive’ behaviour. I know exactly how stressful it can be having a dog that acts in an aggressive manner and the negative energy it creates in a home, even creating hate and division to the point of tearing families apart. To many dog owners, it is no different than dealing with a reactive or aggressive child, you don’t get rid of them or kill them, you keep reaching out for help until you find the help you need. Even when your dog has bitten you, someone else or another dog, they are your child and as their mother or father you know you have to protect them, and it makes it very hard when the ‘dog experts’ and people around you are telling you to destroy them.
When not understood, that perceived ‘aggression’ creates fear in the owner and everyone around them. Once you understand that your dog’s behavior is actually not aggression but just communication done in an inappropriate manner, you will lose all fear and be the strong, courageous and confident Mother your dog needs to feel loved, led and protected, even if you’re a guy.
In the dog world you thank your puppy or dog with acceptance and affection as their Mother did as a ‘reward’. This is why?
All reactive and aggressive behavior in dogs is directly related to one underlying psychological factor, a lack of Motherhood.
At least 90% of what you have read or have been told by a ‘dog trainer’ about ‘dog behavior’ is totally, utterly and completely wrong. And so is 90% of the ‘scientific’ literature on the subject. This includes every single person who has ever told you to reward your puppy or dog with a treat and every single person who has ever told you to be your dog’s dominant Alpha. This also includes the proponents of Dominance Theory who have the relationship between dogs correct but the mechanism by which those relationships are established and maintained, and why, they misunderstand and have humanized.
This is the in-depth and factual, scientific, psychological explanation for ALL reactive and ‘aggressive’ behavior in dogs. What you are about to read works on every dog in the world regardless of breed, age or sex, as long as you are able to project the calm and assertive energy of a Mother dog to her puppies thru your eyes and touch. Every single one of them, even the Alphas. No treats, no words, no dominance, no aggression, no anger, no hatred, just a Mother’s assertive and affectionate energy and love. “I’m Your Mother. I mean it. Now, come so I can give you a hug.
MOTHERHOOD: Being Your Dog’s Mother
The underlying psychological basis for ALL reactive and ‘aggressive’ behaviour in dogs is because they don’t trust and respect their owner as they did their Mother and they don’t feel safe, or the dog is an Alpha dominant dog in the presence of its Mother, protecting her. Sons and daughters equally.
Alpha dominant dogs only make up less than 10% of the dog population because many Alpha dominant puppies are euthanized because of their behaviour by the time they are a year old, many even between 3 and 6 months of age when dominance first starts to appear. Two years ago the BC SPCA was scrutinized for killing a 10 month old puppy that just nipped somebody over a treat. About half of all Beta dominant dogs are euthanized as well.
It takes a strong, confident, courageous, loving, affectionate and balanced Alpha dominant human to earn the trust and respect of an Alpha dominant puppy or dog. The problem is most Alpha dominant humans, and many Beta dominant humans, try to do this using human dominance while dogs do this with balanced, assertive energy. For the other 90+% of non Alpha puppies and dogs in the world, you simply need to be their Mother, even if your a guy. I only work with reactive, aggressive and fearful dogs and I become the Mother to everyone of them, over 2,000 dogs in the last 5 years alone.
In Order To Understand, You Must First Understand.
To become the Mother to a dominant dog, you must first understand what the look in this Mother Wolf’s eyes means, what her eyes project. Why? Because the first way that dogs communicate with each other is through eye contact. When to look, how to look and when not to look. Dogs don’t speak or communicate to each other in English or any other human language. They never have and they never will, no matter how many academic ‘dog psychologists’, ‘dog behaviourists’ and ‘dog trainers’ want to make you think they do. Dogs don’t speak human languages. Dogs communicate with each other through the eyes, the projection of energy, sound and touch, in that order.Find a quiet and comfortable place that represents peace to your mind, sit down and stare into this Mother wolf’s eyes until the entire world around you and even your thoughts completely disappear, until you see nothing but her eyes. See, feel and understand the strength, courage, confidence, love, affection and wisdom she projects. See in her eyes how she can completely control her puppies mostly just by looking at them. The eyes of the Mother that competently, assertively and lovingly, and without fear or hesitation, earns the deepest level of trust and respect one being can share with another from her puppies. The look in her eyes that communicates to her puppies that they are completely safe and protected. The eyes of a Mother who projects to her children that she will lead them and protect them no matter what and will fight to the death if she has to. The eyes of the Mother who says, “Just take one step closer to my kids and see what happens. Go ahead. MAKE MY DAY.”
Are you THAT mother? If you are not, do not get a dominant dog or puppy. Get a submissive one. They make up 70% of the dog population and should not be hard to find.
Now, all you have to do is look at your dog, or any other dog or wolf, in the world with those eyes and that dog will sit in front of you, stop wagging its tail and look deeply into your eyes as it waits for direction or for you to lick its neck to give it affection. At that moment you become their Mother. If they look away from you and avoid looking at you, it’s because they are saying, “You are not my Mother and I don’t have the look at you”. You keep staring at them and without the use of a single word, say to the dog “Yes I am.” Once they stare at you, you have their 100% focus with the acknowledgment that you are their Mother and that at that moment you have something to tell them or teach them or you want to lick their neck to give them a ‘hug’. If they are NOT looking at you, they are NOT listening to you, no matter how many treats you have in your hand.
When a dog sits in front of you and does not look you in the eye, they are a dominant dog who does not respect you or a submissive dog who fears you.
Don’t Blink
Whenever you look a dog in the eye who is in an unbalanced, territorial or dominant state of mind, TO THE DOG, you are correcting it, challenging it or dominating it. That’s it. You could have a heart full of love, a handful of treats and tell them that ‘all dogs love you’, but TO THE DOG, you are correcting them, challenging them or dominating them.
This is why dogs like the little Chihuahua Odin remained fearful and ‘aggressive’ in a dog rescue that used ‘scientifically proven, treat based positive reinforcement only techniques’ for over a year and Odin was still fearful and ‘aggressive’ when he was finally rescued from the rescue, simply because they kept looking him in the eye when trying to give him a treat, pet him or put a collar, leash or muzzle on him. They were fearful of Odin and he knew it.
“If you don’t trust me, I don’t trust you. If you don’t respect me, I don’t respect you. If you fear me, I fear you.”
That is the dog world. Despite knowing Odin’s history, I wasn’t fearful of him and I put a leash on Odin and took him for a walk calmly down the road within 5 minutes of meeting him simply because I didn’t look at him. I was able to show him physical affection the way his Mother did within minutes of meeting him, the first person to be able to do so in over 2 years, simply because I didn’t look at him. You ignore nervous, anxious, insecure and fearful dogs until they come and smell and touch you. But first you have to stop them from moving away so that they can see, feel and understand that there’s nothing to move away from, only love and affection to move towards.
Most dogs don’t shy away from your advances because they have been abused by you or anyone else, they shy away from you because they think you are trying to correct them, challenge them or dominate them when they did nothing to deserve it, are not challenging or trying to dominate you, or they are conceding to your correction.
This is why, based on scientific, observational, dog psychology, when you are correcting or challenging a dog you look them in the eye and you don’t blink, just like their Mother did. Your eyes will dry right out of your head, but until the dog sits, relaxes and looks at you, or does what you’re asking it to do, you look at them and you don’t blink. You will notice that when your dog is looking at you in this moment they are not blinking either. This is how their Mother communicates to them, “I am your Mother and right now I need your undivided attention and focus so I can tell you something or teach you.” The only time a dog looks at another dog in a ‘dominant’ manner is when they are challenging that dog for their position in the pack or claiming an object or area. If your dog trusts and respects you as its Mother it will never challenge you for your position in the pack. Why? Because you’ll always be their trusted and respected Mother.
Then You Blink.
When your dog is calmly sitting in front of you and staring at you, you softly blink your eyes. This is how a Mother says, “Thank you” to her puppies. It is not just about communicating to them when they do something wrong or inappropriate, you also need to have a way of communicating to them that they are doing something correctly or appropriately. When a child does something wrong or inappropriate, we communicate to them using our language that what they just did was wrong or inappropriate, why it was wrong or inappropriate and how we would like them to behave in the future. That’s called teaching, not training.
‘Dog trainers’ will tell you to reward your dog with a treat at this moment and some say to say the words, ‘thank you’. When was the last time you heard a mother dog say the words ‘thank you’ to her puppy or give them a treat? She blinks to ‘thank them’ and then accepts the puppy and gives it affection to continue to thank the puppy and to feed in the calm relaxed energy she wants the puppy to be. If you want to have a calm, relaxed puppy or dog, you have to be the source of the calm and relaxed energy. Puppies and dogs will do a lot more for you, come to you, listen to you and respect you far more for affection than they will for a treat.
When you ‘reward’ a dog with treats, you create a respect relationship between the dog and the treat based on bribery. When you ‘thank’ a dog with a blink and affection, you create a very deep, respectful relationship between the dog and you based on love. What I do IS positive reinforcement ‘only’, I just use affection instead of treats, just like a puppy’s Mother does. Another scientific fact.
Affection
How to properly give your dog physical affection in a manner in which they understand, the manner in which their mother showed them physical affection, is the second most important thing that most ‘dog trainers’ and academic dog psychologists got completely wrong. Dogs don’t pet each other on the head or hug each other to show physical affection. When was the last time you saw dogs meeting who immediately started petting each other on the top of the head? When you try to pet a dominant dog or a fearful, submissive dog on the top of the head, TO THE DOG, you are being dominant and aggressive, even if you have a heart full of love and a handful of treats. That is why they move away from you or bite you when you try. Most of these dogs haven’t been abused, something else these ‘dog trainers’ and academic dog behaviourists got wrong. The dog is backing away from you or biting you because, TO THE DOG, ‘you’ are being dominant and aggressive.
How would you feel and what would you do if a stranger you were uncomfortable with just walked up and tried to pet you on the top of the head or hug you? Why do humans feel they have a right to claim their own personal space from others but yet don’t feel a dog has the same right? You wouldn’t allow a stranger to just walk up, ignore you and touch your child so why would you let a stranger walk up, ignore you and touch your dog? You expect your child to become upset, nervous or fearful in this situation but yet get upset at your dog for feeling the same way? You move your child away from a person they are nervous or fearful to get them to calm down as you explain they don’t need to be fearful of that person, but yet you force your nervous or fearful dog to let that person touch them? Don’t think of your dog as your baby but always imagine them as your five-year-old child. Don’t train them, teach them.
The first thing dogs do when they meet is smell each other’s butts and mouths. That’s because a dog knows its world, and you, by scent first. They intimately know everything in their world by its scent first. Your scent is your name to a dog. They can recognize you by how you look, but they intimately know you by how you smell. This is why a dog that’s in a high-energy, territorial or insecure state of mind will bark at your friends and family every time they come in and then when they calm down they go up for affection from the people they were just barking at and they do this every time the same person comes. That’s because they have no idea who that person is until they have calmed down enough to start using their nose and smell them. If your dog is not smelling the person, they have no idea who that person is.
A dog that’s in a high-energy state who is unbalanced, territorial or dominant is not smelling and that is why they don’t accept treats and the Alphas and many Betas will bite you if you try to give them one. It’s not about food, it’s about survival, safety and protection. Soldiers don’t stop in the middle of a firefight to eat and neither does a dog who thinks it’s being threatened.
Many ‘dog trainers’ and academic dog behaviorists will tell you to hold out the back of your hand to allow a dog to smell it before you then try to pet it on the top of the head. This is wrong as well. If you think about this on a psychological basis, when you hold your hand out with the back of your hand facing the dog you are trying to greet, your hand is closed thereby projecting ‘stay away from me’. When you hold out your hand with your palm facing the dog you are greeting, your hand is open, welcoming and inviting saying ‘come to me.’ Just like a parent does when they hold out their arms projecting to their child ‘come to me so I can give you a hug’, for a dog you hold out your hand palm up to project ‘come to me so I can lick your neck.’
How Do You Hug a Dog? You Lick It’s Neck.
Once your dog sits calmly in front of you and stares at you, you then slowly bend down while you continue to stare at each other as you hold out your hand palm up and go in without hesitation to gently pet your dog with your fingertips under the head in the jowls with the softness and love of a Mother rubbing her fingertips on the bareback of her baby while breastfeeding it.
Men may not be able to breastfeed but we can still touch our puppies and dogs in the same gentle, loving and affectionate manner their Mother did. A human Mother shows and teaches the expression of love through physical touch by holding her baby in her arms, what we ‘as a species’ know as the ‘hug’. The dog Mother licks her puppies neck and gently nuzzles their neck with her muzzle to express her love through physical touch. She licks everywhere else to clean them. Their necks aren’t that dirty. 
We replicate this by very softly and gently rubbing our fingertips in our dog’s jowls, looking them in the eye while closing and softly blinking yours. Your dog will begin to softly blink their eyes. Then you start to pet with the other hand at the same time, and if you get the touch just right, your dog will look you in the eye and then gently lay their head in your hand. Then you slowly bend over to place your head on top of theirs as you gently kiss their head and softly whisper all the loving words you want to say to your dog silently through your touch. You project the peaceful love you want to project through the softness of your touch, the softness of your eyes and the peace of your energy, just as their Mother did. Just watch a Mother with her puppies after they have nursed. Now replicate that and you become their Mother. It really is that simple. I do it with every dog I meet. I become their Mother.
Once you have created the completely calm and relaxed state of mind in your dog through the touch and energy of their Mother, then you can softly whisper all those words you want to say to your dog. Teach your dog that the softly spoken human words mean and represent the wordless love of their Mother. But you have to get them into the calm and relaxed state of mind with the Mother’s touch FIRST, then associate that state of mind with the touch of the human.
Dogs Are Not Paternal.
The Mother dog is naturally alone with her puppies until she introduces them to the pack at around 3 months of age. The Alpha male, nor any other member of the pack, our word for a dog family, don’t have ‘anything’ to do with the puppies until they are around 3 months old. This is equivalent to the psychological development age of a 3 to 4 year old child. How different would our children be if their father, their siblings and their extended family had absolutely nothing to do with them, not even meeting them, until they were four years old?
In the human species, on an evolutionary level and taking social constructs out of the picture, historically in every human society, the woman is responsible for the nursing, nurturing, teaching, some discipline and second line of defense of the children. The man is responsible for hunting, nurturing, teaching, most discipline and the first line of defense of the woman and the children. Men don’t breastfeed their children, although in the last 20 years they have started to try to artificially. Nobody has ever strapped a set of fake milk-filled breasts on a male dog in order to get puppies to breastfeed from their father, although now that I’ve mentioned it I’m sure some miss guided but we’ll intentioned person will try.
Puppies don’t know the Alpha male as their father, they trust and respect him as their leader, who projects the same strength, courage, confidence and love as their Mother, with a look in his eyes that lets them know he will also fight to the death to protect them. He, like their Mother, is ALWAYS in front of them to lead and protect them until they let them know it is safe to go play. And that is why men need to become their dog’s Mother and NOT their Alpha male. Puppies love, trust and respect their Mother more than the Alpha male or anyone else.
It’s Not About Dominance.
The ‘human world’ is about dominance and submission, it is always negative and it is always used for power and control. We as a species just project that onto dogs and think that they act in the same way and for the same reasons that we do. They don’t. The dog world is about trust and respect, not dominance. No dog will ever reject you because of how you look, but many humans will. And dogs know it. They ARE that intelligent. Every time you project negative energy to another being your dog knows it and wonders why.A Mother dog DOES NOT correct her puppies out of dominance, she corrects them and disciplines them with assertive energy. This is another aspect of dog psychology and dog behaviour that most ‘dog trainers’ and academic dog behaviourists got wrong. Are you starting to notice a trend of how much these ‘dog experts’ got completely wrong when it comes to dogs? If you read or reread their literature you should now see that it was all done with the biased attempt to prove what they ‘think’ is ‘fact’ ever since the emergence of Dominance Theory in the 60s and especially since Cesar Millan. It’s not, it’s just their self-serving and self-righteous opinion and they have killed millions of dogs to hid that ‘fact’, just like doctors continued to kill millions of women for 30 more years after it was proven THEY were responsible for these women’s deaths simply because they didn’t wash their hands before delivering babies. The self-protecting human ego and arrogance is so powerful that it is willing to allow mother’s giving birth and misunderstood dogs die to protect it.
When you correct your dog out of overbearing dominant energy, frustration or anger you completely lose the respect of your dog, but when you correct and discipline your dog with assertive energy, you gain their respect. Follow that up with copious amounts of affection in the jowls and relaxation and you build trust.If you want to truly learn how to raise the perfect puppy just watch a Mother dog raise her puppies and learn from her on how to do it properly. Everything Zi know about dogs I learned from dogs. I had to because the humans had it all wrong and I realised that by the time I was 12yo. But who listens to a kid when he disagrees with the experts. For those of you who do not have the time to spend hundreds of hours observing a Mother and her puppies or those who do not have a Mother dog to learn from, I can teach you what I learned from them.
In Conclusion
Humanity needs to understand that men may have created our societies and infrastructure, as well as destroyed them, but women created men and the overbearing, dominant and aggressive men of the world need to remember that. None of us would exist if not for our Mothers and that alone is why we should always respect them and honour them, especially on Mother’s Day, even our Mother dogs. They are not ‘birthing people’ or ‘birthing dogs’, they are Mothers. To think otherwise is completely disrespectful and a slap in the face to the woman who sacrificed her body to give you life.
Thanks Mom. 
I am the Ignaz Semmelweis of the dog world and I have come close to a mental breakdown a few times having to defend myself on Facebook from those who want to destroy me in order to hide the truth to save themselves, while trying to convince you to kill your dog simply because it won’t accept their treat. And I’m the abusive one? After adopting out a number of dogs recently I currently have 24 dogs under my care and I have saved over 2,000 dogs from a life of isolation or death at their hands and I’m the abusive one? These people are sick and delusional. I’m sure I will be long dead and gone before the ‘dog experts’ of this world admit they don’t have a clue what they are talking about when it comes to dog psychology and dog behaviour and stop killing dogs to hide that fact.
I need to train the next generation of Dog Whisperers so that all the dominant puppies that are born in the future will have a chance at life, peace, happiness and love and experience the immense joy of sleeping with their Mother every night for the rest of their life. A great Mother always sleeps with her puppies no matter how old they are and the pack always sleeps together. They can sleep on your bed, just don’t let them sleep by your head.
Thank you for your support. Spread the knowledge and peace. Haters will always be haters. It’s time the world ignores them, especially on Facebook and other social media, because they are destroying or society, our children and or dogs. Those who promote peace want peace, those who don’t, don’t. If you are a hater, you should watch some of Jordan Peterson’s videos so you can understand why you are a hater and get the help you need to bring peace to your life instead of continuing to bring misery to everybody else’s.
I’m not against professional Dog Trainers who respect and love their clients and their dogs. I’m against ‘dog trainers’ who kill dogs to save their reputation and promote their archaic, dominant and aggressive status quo. Dogs Saved My Life as a child by helping me find the inner strength, courage and confidence I needed to stand up to bullies and I will spend the rest of my life saving dogs from the humans and ‘dog experts’ who bully and kill them simply because they won’t take their treat. Over 2,000 dogs saved and counting.
Peace
Cheers 
